10 truths about hitting rock bottom

1. There is always a fake floor

It is always when you think that things can't get worse that they actually do. It makes it even harder to get back up on your feet, but hopefully one day you will see the silver lining.
Just make sure you do not bury yourself in this stage, just take it as an other kick in the gut and get back on your horse and work back towards the amazing person you are.

2. Friends will be there for you...but only to certain extent

When life gets though, friends are always our first port of call. They help you get out of your misery and see the bright side of your story. Still, they are human beings with their own life and own problems. They cannot always be a lifeline you can call 24/7. And if they are, don't abuse it.

3. You will never be the person you used to be again

I can hear you saying "I just want to be back to being myself again". Well, forget about it because you won't. You will be yourself 2.0, and that's even better. You will be stronger and wiser.
When you hit rock bottom, it means you let a part of you go, whichever it is, a job, a lover or a friendship. Sometimes, it is for the best and sometimes not, but it helps you rebuild your values and the bases of your job/relationship/career on your own terms and that's priceless.

4. People will give you terrible advice

Yep, and that's only because some people can't handle seeing someone in a middle of a crisis. So instead of truly listening they will just say what pops into their mind at that exact minute. Believe me, they can be amazing people, but under stress we all give stupid advices. My recommendation is, only share your business with close friend and family, with people that truly get you. For the rest, you can just tell them to shut up. ( You are allowed, after all it is rock bottom ;) )

5. The usual coping mechanisms won't work

If you have hit rock bottom, you have experienced loss. The loss of the person you thought you were, the loss of a person you loved, the loss of a job or something even more precious. Let's be honest, if I recommend you to start mediating right now or go for for a run, it is pretty obvious you won't feel like it. Your body has experienced shock, let it heal. Be gentle with yourself and don't give yourself too much crap. You are doing the best you can with what you've got.

6.Wine (or any kind of substances) won't be your friend

You might be tempted to drown your sorrow in a bottle of Shiraz but remind yourself, it won't solve anything. It is actually quite the opposite, alcohol is a depressant and will only make you feel worse. Easy to say I know, we have all been there. Just don't over do it. When I hit rock bottom, I could not stand the fact I was such a healthy living person drawn into going out and drinking so I just gave myself a time limit. For 3 weeks, I did whatever I felt like doing and after that deadline, I knew it was time to pull myself together and go back to my healthy habits. Only yourself knows your limit but, no matter what happened to you, you are much more worthy than that.

7. You will keep questioning yourself

That's the icky part where you have to face the truth about yourself. Remember that no one is perfect, we are all different and you just have to embrace who you are. If you come to the point where there is things about yourself that you can't embrace, it means it is time to change and work on yourself. And what is a better time for that than rock bottom?

8. You will have to create your own haven

There is no better person than 'you' to protect you from the storm you are going through.
Think about something that brings a soothing and comforting feeling to your mind and do it! Make your place a safe and cosy haven. Invite friends over. Surrounds yourself with things your love. Print some pictures. Call your family. Retreat from Social Medias. Listen to your favourite tunes. Go to Ikea and redecorate.
Make it in a way that when you go home, you get that feeling that the world can't get to you.
It is the perfect time to recenter on what you love and what brings you joy.

9. Then you will have to find yourself again

If sitting still to meditate or exercising does not feel right, it means it is time to get your own little project! New house? New hobby? Volunteering? The great thing about hitting a low is that you can recreate yourself. Decide who you want to be, what your style is, what kind of house do you want to leave in? You have nothing to loose.

10. There is light at the end of the tunnel

I promise. It is hard to see but it is there. It will take time but brighter days will come. You can't give up.

xxx