Do not give your power away

As easy as it can be to quote on social media that we are our own leader/boss babe/empowered goddess, it often does not reflect where we are putting our power.  Your power is your wisdom, your willpower, your strength, what makes you, you. More than often, we put our power in the hands of our friends, strangers, doctors or healers without realizing it all has to come from you.

I have listed below a few categories of people whom in the last few years I was giving my power away to. It is time to bring back that power where it belongs!

Partner: Your other half is not your alarm clock or someone who's there to remind you about the errands you have to run. He/she is not the reason you cannot eat healthy or exercise. You are your own person. You are here to love and support your partner, not to use him/her to your benefit. A healthy relationship is not a dependent relationship. Regain your power by organising your life around what you truly want, the rest will follow.

Friends: We love to turn to our friends for some advice but keep in mind that they are not you and you are not them. Listen and reflect but at the end of the day, you have to follow your own gut feelings.

Colleagues: I remember a time when what my colleagues thought about me mattered a lot to me. One day I realised that colleagues do not always mean friends and they don't always have your best interests in mind. Your workplace must stay a safe place, free of all dramas. Do not get involved in them and do not start them. You will sleep much better at night.

Doctors: I have probably seen a hundred doctors in my life. When I was diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis, I could not deal with sentence of a lifelong illness. So, I kept booking appointment with different doctors hoping someone will have a miracle cure.  It did not happen. I had to face the fact I could not keep throwing money around and beg someone to heal me. They did not have that power but I had the power to accept my illness and the power to make the lifestyle changes that were needed. 

Food: Food is here to nourish and fuel your body. Do not give it more power than it needs. Do not use it to punish or to reward yourself. Stop looking at it this way and your relationship with it may change. You are you own master and you decide what goes into your body and what's best for you, not the opposite. Giving your power away to food is (dare I say it) a recipe for misery.

Money: I used to have massive panic attacks just before bed just thinking about money. After listening countless times to my self-help guru Louise Hay talking about money, I started to think about it a different way and since then no more panic attacks! Treat it as a friend. Money is just a transaction, it comes and goes. Do not give it any more power than what it has. If you concentrate on the lack of money and debt, it will only bring you more distress and debt. When things get tight, I now do visualisation exercises where money is no object. I am not saying it is always easy but I focus on what I have and I am thankful I can afford to pay my bills.

xxx

The Wellness Lover